Motivation is an important factor in living. In fact, without motion we wouldn’t be alive. I see it as two words – Motive and Action. You need a purpose to make you motive and then you need to take action to get you going.
As I write in my latest book – 'Win win – the first negotiation is with yourself', to negotiate with your own internal voice is to take action – as action is the key that opens doors.
Stress can be a motivator - There is good stress where we are stretched like a rubber band fulfilling our potential. Or there is bad stress where the rubber band is so tight, a bit like being “uptight" in some cases, that it is threatening to break. We hear people say I am nearly at breaking point. If we are un-stretched we flop about just like an unfulfilled rubber band looking floppy and tired. So we need some good stress to keep us sharp.
Here are my 7 secrets to amazing motivation - "keep the band stretched"
1. We are here for a purpose. That purpose is to grow so we can add value to others and the world. Someone once said “When we are green we grow and when we are ripe we rot".
Helping people who are not as fortunate as ourselves is amazingly rewarding. How might we do that best? Well, we have to sort ourselves out before we can help others.
It's a bit like when we get on an aircraft, the first thing they say to you in the safety briefing is that you must put your own oxygen mask on first before you help others. In other words you won't be any good to others if you can't breathe when you are trying to help them.
2. Sort your own internal state out. Are you in the right state or are you in a right state? An eminent psychologist said that we think about 1000 of things a day and most of them are negative. They went on to say that of the things we worry about 94% won't happen, 6% will and of that only 3% could we have done anything about.
Quick ways of sorting yourself out is to be have positive goals and targets for each day. Write them out the night before, look at them, revise them in the morning and tick off what you have done at the end of the day. This will give you a key purpose. Likewise have goals and targets for each week, each month.
You can keep your goals on an iPad, like I am typing on now, or you can keep them in a notebook, a journal of a Filofax (yes Filofax they are having a big revival due to their versatility). Making a list will help you focus on purpose each day.
3. Have long term goals. Where you want to be in 5 years. Set big goals but set them under the rules of SMART - Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time based.
There are a few useful tricks you can employ. Firstly go to a quiet place with your note pad and take three really deep breaths. Relax your shoulders and give all your muscle a relaxing wiggle. Then visualise / daydream where you really could be in 5 years if there was nothing holding you back and write your answers down. Be bold, be ambitious, be brave.
4. What might stop you? Limiting beliefs? Then write down what might be stopping you. Is it you because it's scary? Is it your friends or family holding you back due to the fact they didn't achieve much? Or is it you, something inside you? I remember Richard Randler the co-founder of NLP telling a story that one of his clients admitted his Mum had said “You don't want to be successful because successful people have heart attacks".
A limiting belief something that is not true but you might have installed into your brain by others without you knowing, or by repeating things like I am not good enough. This happens to a lot of people and is quite normal. As Henry Ford said ”If you think you can or you think you can’t; you are probably right."
5. Visualisation. Do what the psychologists call a guided visualisation exercise. It's not complicated, anyone can do it. All it is visualising you are there in 5 years time. Where you want to be.
Here is how you do it. Imagine it is the year 2020 and you have achieved your goals. Ask yourself how do I look? How do I sound? How to do I feel?, what smells can I smell? I am smelling the sweet aroma of Succes? Feel the feeling inside of being so successful and meeting your goals. Then turn that feeling it up by enlarging the picture you see of yourself, and the volume up of the sounds you hear. Feel the intensity of that increased feeling flooding your body, flooding every cell in your body. Enjoy the moment, anchor the feeling into your brain’s neurology by squeezing your first finger and your thumb together.
6. Timeline. Now drift back down your timeline from 2020 and make yourself totally present today. And before you leave where you are - make a list of what you did to start taking action to achieve your goals. What was it? To enroll for a course? Order some motivational CDs? Stop mixing with a friend that kept telling you you won't succeed or Negatrons who suck energy out of you, listen to your body.
NB. Its extraordinary that some people hate to see others do well.
Then do it. Just take action - action is the key that unlocks doors. JFDI.
7. The final tip. Get up earlier. Do things differently, go a different route to work. “The early bird catches the worm". Start getting up earlier, as soon as you wake up. Here is the secret that many high achievers do to start their day as they come out of that waking alpha state in the early morning.
Firstly they listen to the sounds they can hear. Perhaps it is the birds singing or the radiators warming up or the floorboards creaking or the sound of cars in the street. They consciously notice these sounds.
Secondly they visualise in their minds the end of the day having achieved everything they wanted to achieve as they sit down and reflect on a very successful day.
Then finally feel the feeling inside from having had such a great day. Then they imagine a switch, like a dial on a radio, and they turn that feeling up so it floods their body. At that point they get up.
By Derek Arden, The Negotiating Speaker - known as Mr Negotiator is an International negotiating and Motivational speaker. Author of 'Win Win - the first negotiation is with yourself' Derek helps people negotiate with themselves and then others to achieve massive results; that even they didn’t think they could ever achieve. Sign up for his motivational briefing and get a free copy of '117 handy haggling hints' ebook.